This is a collaborative post by Ellie Jo.
Life can, and does, generally, throw some curveballs at times, and many of us deal with these as they come along, without much difficulty. It can be exhausting, however, when there are lots of problems all at once, and it can become a little bit draining over time. But the saying “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger“ is famous for a reason. The reason for this is that when we overcome our challenges, we do find resilience that we didn’t have before. We gain confidence from dealing with life’s dramas and moving forward positively. And even though problems can range from a car breakdown to needing a top criminal defense lawyer, everything in between is just as valid, and will ultimately help you become a stronger person. But how do we bounce back from these challenges? And what do we need to do to ensure that we aren’t dragged down by the day-to-day stresses?
Self-care is essential, you can’t pour from an empty cup, and we all must start from the standpoint of happy and confident. When this happens, you can become a healthy person who can deal with what life throws at them. It’s vital that we get enough rest, hydration, and good food, and surround ourselves with good people. Because the alternative means we deplete our reserves over the time and struggle through life. It sounds simple, but it isn’t always when we have the commitment of our family to look after and expectations placed upon us By employers, society, and in fact, our families as well. But taking a little time each week to take care of yourself is always a good thing.
Asking for help
When we come across problems, we tend to try and deal with them ourselves; of course, this depends on how you have been brought up, but generally, we feel as though we have failed if we ask for help. However, this couldn’t be further from the truth. If you have a network of people around you, they are more than likely going to want to help you if they can. If you don’t lean on these people, you are much more likely to find yourself in deep trouble quicker. And you can always help them when they need it to, so it isn’t about taking advantage of others.
If the car breaks down and you have breakdown cover, it means you are much more likely just to move forward, if you are off work ill for a few days. You already have your cupboards full of food, and medicine that you need, this will take the stress away from the situation, and if your child comes home from school with a request for a donation to a charity, and you have some spare change you can send in, then you won’t need to spend time searching for these things.
So ultimately making sure that you are prepared for most eventualities, means you will have less stress, and more time available. This means you can bounce back quickly if anything changes and you come across any problems.
If you aren’t careful, you can burn out quickly, especially with significant life changes. Building some resilience in whichever way works for you will help prevent these significant changes causing you too much emotional turmoil.