Life means different things for different people. We all have varied motivations, desires, obsessions, fears, hopes, strange personality quirks and people in our lives. That’s why trying to write a guide about what matters most in life is always difficult and near to impossible. However, you can write a guide depicting exactly how life can improve for most people, and what works for the majority in this case. While we are all different and are motivated by different things, we have much more in common than we know. After all, we’re all connected in some strange way that we do not realize by virtue of living life together. This is as true for even the CEO of Coca-Cola and a schoolteacher in China. Therefore, no matter the apparent distance between the two people we are all connected.
We’d argue that life is good when…
You Feel Confident
Everyone enjoys feeling confident and comfortable in their skin. Not all of us are interested in fashion, beauty and trying to look our best at all times. Although, we are all interested in feeling happy and confident. Life becomes better when you feel rooted in your own being, and happy as who you are. If you’re continually anxious about the way you look, the behavior you have and the lifestyle you live, it might be time for a change. If you can change what’s wrong, then why not do so? Exercising personal control in these circumstances can always make them better, and make them work for you to a profound degree.
Confidence is tantamount to self-love, not how good looking you are. For this reason, learning simple grooming techniques such as how to cover up pimples without makeup, or how to braid your hair, or how to treat your eyebrows could all be considered an act of self-love. Even if you don’t plan to look beautiful every day, simply the act of maintaining yourself speaks volumes about your self-worth. It tells you that you’re worthwhile, you deserve respect, and that you are the only person you truly need. When it comes to moving through life well, having those three attitudes can benefit you immensely.
You Are Connected
A solid social life is something we all need to thrive. Even those with an introverted disposition greatly benefit from having this as a permanent fixture in their lives. Having people around you is not only good for you from a social support perspective, it is great for you on a physiological level. This is why only having internet friends, while better than having none, is not as purely satisfying as meeting and exploring the world with someone in proximity.
You needn’t have an intense relationship with your friends. Simply being on great terms with them and looking out for one another can be enough. The best part is that there is always someone out there with your disposition. Do you like really nerdy activities? There’s a group out there for you. Do you enjoy relaxing and sunbathing? It’s likely there’s a community out there for you too. Do you love self-help and the motivation that brings with it? Then you’re sure to find a group of people with the same temperament.
Sometimes it can benefit you to assess how solid your friendship groups are. Do you feel they would be there for you in times of need? Or, would they leave you alone? Are they continually supportive of you, or do they regularly discourage you from taking your life in interesting directions, such as starting a new hobby or forming a new relationship? Are they active in your life, asking how you are constantly and trying to do things with you, or do you have to fight with them to even get them to attend a lunch date?
Life is too short for friends who aren’t completely dedicated to the friendship. Therefore, sometimes replacing or extending your social circles can be a very wise pursuit. We believe that if you’re smart about this, your social life can take on a new light, and reaffirm what makes your life worth living time and time again. After all, an experience shared is an experienced doubled in pleasure, and a problem shared is a problem halved.
You Pursue Goals
It’s important to have a purpose. If you have children, then being a great Mom could be your purpose. Or, if you have a career, then reaching a certain level or working for certain clients could be your goal. If you enjoy a hobby such as playing guitar, then learning to perform your favorite songs could be something that interests you. Goals can crop up in all areas of our lives, and we are only truly satisfied when moving towards them.
This is truer than you know. Getting a goal can feel wonderful for a day or two, but then the next thing comes along to take your attention. We are creatures of burden. In addition, our nervous systems are linked to positively perceiving ourselves moving towards that goal. Even if you are disabled and unable to maneuver in the same way that able-bodied people can, you can still find goals in writing poetry, reading, or studying a certain topic. Humans are physiologically and neurotically designed to see a progression in our circumstances. We can predict how the future will turn out if we use certain behaviors to get ourselves there.
If you manage to find purpose in your life, no matter what it is, you will find meaning and action throughout the whole of your days here. This will help ward off depression, eliminate boredom and put you in touch with larger and larger mountains to climb. Then, these are the ones that truly test you who you are and make you feel alive. You can be sure that during this process, you will consider life to be good, even if your pursuit is to repair rather than achieve.
Life is good when you love, connect, and move toward goals
Life is good when you are who you want to be. This might mean accepting who you are now. If you’re making genuine strides to treat yourself with love, connect with people around you and move towards the goal that means the most to you, you can be sure that you feel satisfaction like never before.
Rachel is an Austin blogger, educator, mom, wife, young breast cancer survivor writing about health, saving money, and living a happy life in Austin, Texas.
Rachel has written for HuffPost and Hometalk and has been featured on KXAN, Studio 512, Fox 7 Austin, and CBS Austin.