This is a contributed post from Ellie Jo on relationships.
Your marriage is a significant part of your life and you’ve likely had many good times with your spouse over the years. However, sometimes relationships struggle, and the feelings fade or come and go.
You may soon find yourself in a rocky marriage and not knowing what to do with yourself or the situation. Some tips will help you better navigate your circumstances so you have an idea of what to do in an unhappy marriage and how to ensure you get through this difficult time and don’t lose yourself in the process.
Talk through Your Struggles
You may want to sit down and talk through your struggles with your spouse. There may be many reasons why you’re unhappy in your marriage. Converse with your partner and try to work through your problems and get on the same page. There might be issues that are bothering either one of you that the other person isn’t aware of. Sometimes all it takes to improve a marriage is better and more in-depth communication.
Spend Quality Time Together
Spend more time together if you want to try to turn your marriage around and have happier days ahead. When the happiness fades it may be because you no longer participate in fun activities as a couple or laugh and be silly. Therefore, make it a point and a priority to schedule quality time with your spouse and see if you two can reconnect again. Go on regular date nights and eliminate any distractions to see if there’s still a spark. It’s a chance to get to know each other again and be generous with one another.
Consider Moving on
Remind yourself that while maybe not your first choice, you do have options when it comes to ending the marriage. If you two have a mutual understanding and want to work together to protect your family’s interests then you might want to opt for acollaborative divorce. When you’re in an unhappy marriage and have tried to resolve your issues without any progress then it might be the best decision for you at this time.
Focus on the Positives & Exercise Forgiveness
Although you may be sad or frustrated right now, you don’t want your health and happiness to end up suffering. When you’re in an unhappy marriage try to focus on the positives and the good times you’ve had together. Exercise forgiveness so that you can get to a better place and not hold onto anger or resentment. It’s especially important if you have kids and don’t want them to be burdened with the split and your situation. Learn to let go so you can heal and move forward and so you can avoid being a victim.
This advice will help you work through the trying times in your marriage when you’re unhappy and confused. It’s ultimately up to you to decide about whether to keep holding on and fighting for your love and relationship or not. No matter what you choose, be sure to be kind to yourself and take good care of yourself so you can be and stay well.
Erin is the mother of identical twin girls and their slightly older brother. She is a domestic engineer, and previously had a career leading customer service teams for a major HVAC company. Cleaning without harsh chemicals, and cooking easy and usually healthy meals are part of Erin's daily life. She volunteers with youth leaders, and genuinely wants to help others win. Erin has a degree in Communications, with a focus on Broadcast Journalism.